Spring is here! Hooray! With this change in seasons I’ve been thinking about two things: (1) rebirth of the season and the holidays associated with this time of year (For me that is the Jewish holiday of Passover) and (2) Disney’s “Frozen”. You’re probably thinking, “How are those two related?” Well allow me to explain. First let’s discuss the movie.
My family & the media have forced me to hear (and boldly sing) “Let It Go” from Disney’s movie, “Frozen” over and over and over again. Mind you, I have yet to see the movie and have no clue what it’s about. That said, all that singing got me thinking … some times you just have to let it go. This way of thinking holds true to many things that life throws at you. We all have issues with work, family relationships etc. But when struggling with infertility, I wondered, how can letting it go help?
To prove this theory I thought a look at the lyrics would help. Below are some excerpts from the song (feel free to hum as you read):
Let it go, let it go
Can’t hold it back anymore
Let it go, let it go
Turn away and slam the door . . .
. . . I don’t care
What they’re going to say
Let the storm rage on,
The cold never bothered me anyway . . .
. . . It’s funny how some distance
Makes everything seem small
And the fears that once controlled me
Can’t get to me at all . . .
. . . It’s time to see what I can do
To test the limits and break through
No right, no wrong, no rules for me
I’m free . . .
. . . Let it go, let it go
I am one with the wind and sky
Let it go, let it go
You’ll never see me cry . . .
. . . Here I stand
And here I’ll stay
Let the storm rage on . . ..
Basically the way I see it, this could be the new mantra or theme song for your struggle with infertility. Here is why:
- Don’t care what others think or say. Just keep moving forward to your goal of parenthood. If you believe your life should be a certain way, then work hard to get there. Don’t let the fear of the unknown stop you on your mission.
- Test yourself. You have no idea how strong you are until you bounce back from your lowest of lows (and sometimes come back from an even lower place than that – trust me, it will happen).
- So life isn’t exactly turning out the way you planned. Don’t get all caught up in the why and “woe is me” BS. Allow yourself to have that experience(s) but then force yourself to drag yourself out of bed and live. Similar to when you break up with someone. You think life can’t go on but then little by little you get there and then poof you’re out dating again.
- Distance will make everything seem small. To spell out the analogy so the lyric works– distance equals time. And time heals all wounds. With that, I promise that after you make it to the other side of this awful battle and have the family to prove it, the day will eventually come when you will almost forget about all of the hardship . . . until, of course, that moment comes when you decide you want a second child. How about that for optimism??
- You’ll never see me cry. OK, I actually disagree with this one. It’s ok to cry. By yourself, with loved ones, friends, your doctor etc. Just try to avoid bawling with strangers – like spilling your guts out to the gal sitting next to you on the crowded 6 train (that’s NYC subway line for all of you non-New Yorkers).
So my takeaway from a cartoon princess with a good voice (Idina Menzel is pretty awesome) is to try and let things go from time to time. Push yourself and don’t accept limits. Sing your personal theme song out loud (“Let It Go” or any other great anthems!) Shout out loud because it’s time to shed the winter blues and enjoy this resurgence of the season.
Hmmm… so now let me get back to Passover and somehow bring the message full circle with an attempt to shamelessly exploit the current holiday season. Passover is the time of year to enjoy one’s freedom, best summed up by Moses telling the Egyptian pharaoh to “Let My People Go” … aha – see the common theme here -letting things go!! See what I did??
So break open a bottle of good old Manichewitz and check out how I’m not the only one who can mix “Let It Go” with the awesome story of Passover. Check it out and Happy Passover!