Thanksgiving is upon us. The time of year when we’re supposed to be grateful and say thanks for what we have. For those of you/us battling infertility, it might seem hard to be grateful at this time. You might want to curse anyone who you could blame for your situation. You might just feel like being the opposite of grateful. (By the way, I looked up the antonym of “grateful”: abusive, mean, heedless, rude, thankless, unappreciative, oh and ungrateful).
My advice (if you’re taking it) . . . try and find something to be thankful for since we can all be thankful for something or someone in our lives. It could be your spouse, your job, your home, family etc. Maybe it’s just a matter of being thankful for your new perspective on life. Yes, the situation you’re in is quite crappy, but let’s look at all the new skills you have/or will obtain. If not for battling infertility, how would you become an expert with injections? Who knows how such a skill could come in handy one day? I’ve seen the over dose/adrenaline scene in Pulp Fiction. Don’t you want to be prepared in case this ever happens to you? If you haven’t seen the clip, click here to check it out.
What about knowing how to handle the hot flashes? By learning this in your younger years (20-40’s) you’ll be such a pro when good old menopause comes knocking on your door a few years from now. You’ll need to handle it better than Mrs. Doubtfire, right? Click here for clip.
In all seriousness, when you finally become the parent that you’ve dreamt about, you will be grateful and realize you have many reasons to be thankful. For me, looking back at all of the hardship that I went through, I am actually thankful that the first few rounds of IVF didn’t result in pregnancies because then I wouldn’t have my oldest son who is the little boy I so love. This thought may seem unnatural, but I am someone who believes in fate and in my heart I believe that my son was meant to be born to this world only at a certain time. Likewise, I am thankful for that unplanned pregnancy which unfortunately ended in miscarriage and therefore delayed my scheduled IVF, which later resulted in my second beautiful son. (I’ll dive into that unplanned pregnancy in a later post).
I’m thankful I went through so much shit because only now can I really appreciate the important things in life. I’m thankful and grateful for my husband who held my hand all these years just a bit tighter when I needed it. I’m thankful for the way my career took a turn resulting in pushing me to create this blog.
Oh, and I’m thankful to the American Express Starwood Program that has graciously provided me with the opportunity to go to Hawaii for free because of all the points I earned by paying for all those IVF treatments, medication and acupuncture!! Bonus!!
Wishing you a very Happy Thanksgiving!