I have the very exciting opportunity to guest blog on my fertility clinic, Center for Human Reproduction (CHR)’s website. See the post below or check it out on
My name is Sara and I am a proud “graduate” of CHR. I battled my own infertility and endured all the rollercoaster emotions that accompanied the realization that I needed some serious medical intervention to help me achieve my dreams of parenthood. Thanks to CHR, I am now lucky to call myself a mom, as my 2 beautiful sons were born in August 2010 and August 2012. I am excited about contributing to CHR’s blog because I can think of no better satisfaction than to be able to help those who are unfortunately experiencing their own struggle with infertility. As you work towards starting your own family, my goal is to show you that the subject matter of infertility is not to be considered taboo, as I will share with you my personal experiences that ultimately led me to successfully trade the label of infertile for that of mother – perhaps you may even find a reason to laugh.
My story starts with the fact that I always knew I wanted to have kids. I dreamt about being a mom and knew that it would be my greatest accomplishment. About a year after my husband and I were married, we started to try on our own. I didn’t expect to have any issues with conceiving since in my mind I was only 31 years old. Seven months went by and the emotional rollercoaster was excruciating….the waiting, dealing with a late period and believing, “This is it!” . . . thinking that the nausea I felt driving in a NYC taxi must be morning sickness only to realize that it was just the driver who was making me sick . . . and finally capped off with the sobering and depressing news that I was not pregnant handed to me month after month.
Knowing something wasn’t right, I was glad I trusted my instincts and sought medical help. My gynecologist recommended three fertility clinics/doctors in New York City. As is my nature, I went right home; wasted no time in firing up the computer; read every article, review and comment I could find; and then called all three doctors to setup consultation meetings.
I had my initial consultation with Dr. Gleicher in the summer of 2008. By the end of the first meeting my husband and I just knew that this was the right place for us to seek help. Dr. Gleicher called out issues and concerns that other doctors hadn’t mentioned and felt confident that we could get pregnant. After reviewing both my and my husband’s entire medical history,Dr. Gleicher determined that IVF was our only chance of getting pregnant and carrying a baby. It was quite the detailed and thorough meeting (thorough = good), and at the end of it we had crafted a plan. Being the incessant planner that I am, this made sense. I regained my feeling of empowerment knowing that there was hope – I was elated. We were on our way!!!
I could write paragraph after paragraph about my own physical issues, whether it be potential endometriosis, auto-immune deficiencies, bicornuate uterus, or what infamously and affectionately became known as the “Double Ds” – my lovely and voluptuous dermoids that took up residence in my ovaries. (Yes, the jokes and “double” entendres seemed endless.) But seriously, c’mon man!! How many issues could one girl have? But through it all, Dr Gleicher and Dr. Barad, who I met during the beginning of my IVF cycle, felt optimistic and helped me to believe that we could do this. (Note Dr. Kushnir joined the practice in 2012). My motivation and optimism were based on the statistic I had read somewhere that one out of two IVF cycles of women my age (back then, I was 31) are successful. I didn’t really know if that statistics applied to my specific situation, but I was determined to be that one anyway.
I hope as I share my experiences with you, you’ll learn more about my perspective on IVF and will inspire you to continue on your journey despite all the odds. More importantly, I want to show you that it is ok – and even necessary – to talk about these issues with friends, family or even strangers in the waiting room.
I can be reached via CHR or please visit my blog at www.laughingattheiword.com.