Guest Blogging at CHR

I have the very exciting opportunity to guest blog on my fertility clinic, Center for Human Reproduction (CHR)’s website. See the post below or check it out on

http://www.centerforhumanreprod.com/blog/

My name is Sara and I am a proud “graduate” of CHR.  I battled my own infertility and endured all the rollercoaster emotions that accompanied the realization that I needed some serious medical intervention to help me achieve my dreams of parenthood.  Thanks to CHR, I am now lucky to call myself a mom, as my 2 beautiful sons were born in August 2010 and August 2012.  I am excited about contributing to CHR’s blog because I can think of no better satisfaction than to be able to help those who are unfortunately experiencing their own struggle with infertility. As you work towards starting your own family, my goal is to show you that the subject matter of infertility is not to be considered taboo, as I will share with you my personal experiences that ultimately led me to successfully trade the label of infertile for that of mother – perhaps you may even find a reason to laugh.

My story starts with the fact that I always knew I wanted to have kids. I dreamt about being a mom and knew that it would be my greatest accomplishment. About a year after my husband and I were married, we started to try on our own. I didn’t expect to have any issues with conceiving since in my mind I was only 31 years old. Seven months went by and the emotional rollercoaster was excruciating….the waiting, dealing with a late period and believing, “This is it!” . . . thinking that the nausea I felt driving in a NYC taxi must be morning sickness only to realize that it was just the driver who was making me sick . . . and finally capped off with the sobering and depressing news that I was not pregnant handed to me month after month.

Knowing something wasn’t right, I was glad I trusted my instincts and sought medical help.  My gynecologist recommended three fertility clinics/doctors in New York City. As is my nature, I went right home; wasted no time in firing up the computer; read every article, review and comment I could find; and then called all three doctors to setup consultation meetings.

I had my initial consultation with Dr. Gleicher in the summer of 2008. By the end of the first meeting my husband and I just knew that this was the right place for us to seek help. Dr. Gleicher called out issues and concerns that other doctors hadn’t mentioned and felt confident that we could get pregnant. After reviewing both my and my husband’s entire medical history,Dr. Gleicher determined that IVF was our only chance of getting pregnant and carrying a baby. It was quite the detailed and thorough meeting (thorough = good), and at the end of it we had crafted a plan. Being the incessant planner that I am, this made sense. I regained my feeling of empowerment knowing that there was hope – I was elated. We were on our way!!!

I could write paragraph after paragraph about my own physical issues, whether it be potential endometriosis, auto-immune deficiencies, bicornuate uterus, or what infamously and affectionately became known as the “Double Ds” – my lovely and voluptuous dermoids that took up residence in my ovaries. (Yes, the jokes and “double” entendres seemed endless.) But seriously, c’mon man!! How many issues could one girl have? But through it all, Dr Gleicher and Dr. Barad, who I met during the beginning of my IVF cycle, felt optimistic and helped me to believe that we could do this. (Note Dr. Kushnir joined the practice in 2012). My motivation and optimism were based on the statistic I had read somewhere that one out of two IVF cycles of women my age (back then, I was 31) are successful. I didn’t really know if that statistics applied to my specific situation, but I was determined to be that one anyway.

I hope as I share my experiences with you, you’ll learn more about my perspective on IVF and will inspire you to continue on your journey despite all the odds.  More importantly, I want to show you that it is ok – and even necessary – to talk about these issues with friends, family or even strangers in the waiting room.

I can be reached via CHR or please visit my blog at www.laughingattheiword.com.

Stay positive!

Sara

8 thoughts on “Guest Blogging at CHR

  1. Margie Tannenbaum

    You wrote this so beautifully. It would make so many who share your issues feel optimistic about the future. Bravo for coming forward on this sensitive topic!

  2. Kudos to you sara for being so” out there” in trying to help others with their goal of parenthood!!! Hope you are well!! Beth frost

    • thank you for your kind words. i’m hoping to help others, try and take away the stigma and of course laugh along the way.

  3. Loved the eCard about sexy shots and also the “mile high club” reference. Lol. I have an 18 month old via IVF. It is such a long journey filled with a lot of ups and downs. There many little hurdles to get over along the way and each one carries with it hope, expectation, fear of dissappointment and (if you’re lucky) relief, (if you’re not) sadness, only to know you have to go through all of that again when you come to the next hurdle. It is most certainly a roller coaster. And this is all BEFORE actually getting pregnant, which then carries with it another set of ups and downs. I will say that what kept me going is having a sense of humor about it all. You seem to have that part covered. I look forward to reading more posts!

    And don’t give up hope. Just tell yourself that you will be a mommy no matter what and when that day finally comes, regardless of how it happens, all of this will have been worth it. good luck!!!! 🙂

  4. I just read this post after I posted my precious comment–you are already a mommy!! Congrats!! You trying IVF again?

    • “Previous” comment–thanks autocorrect lol

      • Hi Jean,
        Thanks so much for your comment. Congrats on your success with IVF and talking about your own journey. It’s so great to hear that you can relate and can empathize, not just sympathize with me and so many others. How did you find my blog? I look forward to adding more posts and continuing the conversation.

  5. Jean-i have 2 little boys-ages 3 and 15 months so right now we’re good….not sure what the future holds 🙂

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